There’s no shame in taking your hand job or blowjob to the next level, and prostate play is a great way to do just that. While it’s possible to stimulate the P-spot with your own fingers or a partner, prostate toys are specifically designed to take it up a notch. They’re curved to better reach the P-spot and come with multiple vibration intensities for a more custom experience. They also take the guesswork out of how to do a proper prostate massage.
Prostate massagers are essentially plug-like toys that sit inside the urethra and can be inserted by either partner. They’re made of body-safe material like silicone, glass, or stainless steel and have a smooth surface for easy insertion and cleaning. They’re also more flexible than a traditional hard plug and are usually designed to pivot against your prostate for increased pressure. They may require a little more work than a simple vibrating plug but can be incredibly pleasurable with the right technique.
Choosing the best prostate massager for you will depend on your pain or pleasure tolerance, and the shape of your anatomy. Size, or girth, is also an important factor to consider because some models are simply too large to fit easily into your urethra and could cause discomfort, or even pain, depending on your comfort level.
If you’re new to prostate stimulation, a slimmer, lighter model might be more comfortable to start with, and you can always upgrade later as your comfort levels grow. For example, the Aneros Helix Syn Trident is super thin (1 inch max width), safe for newbies (3.6 inches insertable length), and comes with 10 different vibration settings for your pleasure. It’s also quiet despite the powerful dual motors and spinning ridges meant to massage the prostate and perineum.
For advanced prostate users, the Nexus Revo Stealth is the real deal. It’s a more expensive choice than other prostate massagers but it is packed with all the features that you can expect from a top of the line prostate toy. A remote control lets you flick through all the vibration settings while the SenseMotion feature changes intensity based on your movements to mimic hand-stimulation for a more immersive experience. It’s also made of velvety body-safe silicone and is completely waterproof.
Lovense blew up during the pandemic as the premier long-distance sex toy company. Their products connect to a phone app via Bluetooth and let you, or your partner, control the toy from hundreds of miles away. This hands-free prostate play is the ultimate in freedom and can open up a whole new world of sexual possibilities. Plus, their toy is medical grade silicone and reaches the P-spot with ease thanks to its curved design. There are plenty of vibration modes and a variety of rotation speeds to play with, as well as a special pulsing mode for deeper stimulation. This model is quiet despite the two powerful motors and has an easy-to-use, intuitive interface that’s perfect for beginners.